Military guys are protective, which comes with the territory I suppose. because people aren't even friends with the person they're dating. I've been dating my guy for 4 years so I'm going through many of the same frustrations of feeling like “a fling” in the eyes of the military. Why aren't there more. I'm 22 years old, and this is my first time being in a relationship with a man in the military. He just got back from Afghanistan and decided that he wants to be.